Friday, December 22, 2006
Monday, December 11, 2006
I think one of the best things that has happened lately with Dominic is that he's really becoming more open with Damien. When he was first born, he hated him and wanted nothing to do with him. As a baby he was ok but then when he started crawling and liking Dominic's toys things went downhill again. Now he's come to realize I think that Damien is not out to steal all his toys and Damien really thinks Dominic is pretty cool and just wants to be like him. They are playing together alot more and run around the house together. There are still usually one or two times though where Dom freaks out and either hurts Damien by pushing him or takes toys from him causing him to cry. I think we'll always have those though.
Thursday, November 30, 2006
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
Everything has been going pretty well. Seems like there are days where I think to myself that Dominic is totally fine, just being a rowdy boy but then there's day I can barely handle him he's so wound up screaming and just all over the dang place. We can tell him "no, don't do that" 20 times and he'll still keep doing it like he doesn't hear us which he does. He hasn't taken a nap in so so long and still stays up till 10 atleast but we put him to bed at 8:30. It's frustrating. We've been so busy we haven't scheduled another therapy appointment either. I've been researching Homeopathic Herbs for ADHD instead of going ahead and sticking him on the Adderall. There's so much information out there and it's all quite confusing! If herbs work though, I'd rather do that then anything.
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
Here's an article on the internet about it.
So basically they are saying children have a sensitivity to dyes put in our kids food which causes behavior problems. The lady on the news said her 4 yr old would scream "I'm going to kill you!" and "I'll hit you!" Which are two things we hear alot out of Dominic. She said that after 2 weeks of getting the foods out of his system he was a totally different child. We decided to go in the kitchen and low and behold EVERYTHING has Red Dye in it. Poptarts, juice, toaster strudels, canned fruit, cereal, etc. The kid will starve to death now if we try the 2 week experiment. I'm thinking we should at least try cutting it and see what happens. I just can't believe I had never heard of this before.
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
Most of the other meltdowns are from him not getting something he wants such as running around the stores, getting pushed back from Alex or Damien when he's bothering them, or something is wrong with a toy he's been playing with.
Sunday afternoon he was outside riding a tricycle and I told him he would have to come in because it was freezing out. Bad move. I had to carry him kicking and screaming inside. He threw the biggest fit for a good 30-40 minutes crying because he wanted out. I had to use our locks on the tops of the doors to keep him in because he was so determined to get out.
Yesterday for no reason he was bothering Alex and her friend playing Hot Potato. He kept kicking Alex in the back over and over and then trying to do a somersault between them. I asked him if he wanted to play with them and he'd scream "NO!" He continued over and over till finally he decided to jump on Alex as she was sitting on the floor and she ducked down which made him fall over her and hurt his back on some plastic toys. He cried and screamed and cried and screamed for about 30 minutes. Even when her friend's mom came to pick her daughter up he wanted nothing to do with her either. He was very angry screaming "leave me 'lone!!!!!"
This morning I was trying to get him ready for school but he insisted on not only peeing on the toilet but pooping too but he didn't really need to do it. FYI- he only poops or pees on the toilet when he wants. When he really does have to go he usually just goes in his pants. So after 20 minutes of me saying we need to get dressed or you won't be able to eat before the bus gets here he finally came out. It wasn't because of me saying that either, because for 20 minutes all he did was slam the bathroom door and scream "leave me 'lone!" and "Go 'way!!!" The way he screams at you just makes you want to pop him in the mouth. He's very hateful and loud.
I did notice him snoring the past 2 nights but I moved him and he'd quit so I'm sure he got plenty of sleep. He hasn't taken naps forever now it seems. The afternoons are mainly him playing with the trains for a few hours. He did take some interest in hotwheels cars yesterday which surprised me. He hardly ever plays with anything besides the trains. We might as well sell every other toy he has.
Thursday, November 16, 2006
- Running around all the time
- doesn't like to sit and listen to direction.
- runs all over the place when not secured in a basket
- no naps
- very loud play even after asked to be quiet
- hates changes such as sitting in a new spot in the car or if something moves
- Usually cries or holds his ears when babies cry. Gets upset when he's yelled at and says to stop.
- ALWAYS playing with Thomas the train
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
I had told Dominic's teacher awhile back I was trying to catch Dominic during some of his wild times and recording it (when he wasn't looking) so I would have proof to show like his Dr or anyone else. These are some recent videos I took of his behavior.
Here's two with his hyperactivity. This is pretty much him from about 3:30-8:30 and why I always say he acts like he's cracked out on Meth. BUT this first video is from 7 AM this morning.
Here's an old one I think right about when we realized Dominic had some issues going on. This fit was over a snack and I gave him a poptart but not the one he wanted.
Monday, November 13, 2006
Note to self: No Nap/Slept from 9 PM-7AM/Didn't snore at all. Breakfast Ate 2 cinnamon rolls, Milk, Lunch: 4 chicken nuggets, 1 1/2 banana, milk.
Sunday, November 12, 2006
The worst this weekend has been the crying. I swear he's a bigger baby than Damien and will cry at the stupidest things. Alex sat down at the table for breakfast and he went under the table bawling. Damien takes a toy truck that he's left on the floor he starts bawling. This isn't just alittle crying too it's the meltdown cry where he just drops to the floor and you can't talk to another person because he's so loud. We try to comfort him but it usually just gets him even more pissed off and he starts sceaming "leave me 'lone!!" One thing though, he's super excited for Christmas and has been going through ads and having me write toys on his list. He shines with happiness when you mention Christmas is coming which is really cute.
Note to Self: No Nap/slept from 9-7 AM/No Snoring that I noticed
Saturday, November 11, 2006
Note to self: No Nap/Went to bed at 10 PM-7 AM this morning/No Snoring last night.
Friday, November 10, 2006
Yesterday there were a few difficult moments with Dominic. He went to school, finally got on the bus after getting upset about "the man." After school he ate really good! A whole Grilled Cheese just didn't eat the crust and some grapes with some kool-aid since we were about out of milk. Then in the afternoon I had Kelsey (4) so since she needed a nap I put him on the couch in the basement for "quiet time" since he doesn't nap. He played quietly downstairs for about 2 hours without coming up for anything. After Alex got home though he turned into a live wire. He kept getting upset about everything with his blanket not rolling out on the floor perfect because he was rolling himself up in it as a mummy. He was pissed off that the blanket wouldn't cooperate and just kept screaming and bawling about it throwing the biggest fit ever. I told him that I was going to put him in his room if he didn't behave but that really didn't work.
At dinner though he turned back to normal and ate some pizza before we all went to Alex's Brownie meeting. He loves going to Brownies but sometimes can't do the activites or Alex won't share with him and he gets upset. One of the mom's gave him some pipe cleaners to make candy canes with so he was really really good. He didn't run around like he was on crack, he didn't climb under the tables or climb on everything. He was actually pretty enjoyable to have there. Before we walked in the door, Alex slammed his head with the van door so maybe she knocked some sense into him. I felt so bad for him, that had to hurt but he was ok after a few minutes. When we came home I promised him popcorn as a BT snack so he was more than willing to get in the bath. He cooperated getting ready for bed and listened as I read to 2 books to the kids.
Note To Self: No Nap, Asleep by 9:30 PM, very light snoring when first asleep but then no other snoring heard throughout the night.
Thursday, November 09, 2006
For my info: Dominic did not snore at all last night. He slept from 10 PM- 7 AM with no nap.
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Before the appointment we went to the Lab to have blood drawn to check his thyroid. I wasn't worried at all since the kids just had lead tests back a few months ago and they did fine with Dave. Boy was I wrong. As soon as she inserted the needle he started screaming and crying "owweee!" and took his other hand and tried ripping the needle out of his arm. It took a second to pry him from it, scared all 3 of us to death. They got the blood though and we'll hear back on that soon.
Monday, November 06, 2006
Dom's had stomach flu on and off since Thursday, November 2nd. He's pretty much been off milk and drinking 7up and applejuice. Would it be weird to say that he's acting better? Could the therapist be right and maybe he IS allergic to milk which causes his erratic behavior?? It sounded pretty far fetched to me but he has been so much different. I wouldn't say it would be milk though unless he was 100% well. If his appointment on the 8th show him as OK then I guess we go the allergist route next and rule out any allergies.
Thursday, November 02, 2006
Dominic has a snoring problem but I really didn't think anything of it till the other day when one of my daycare mom's said something about it. I guess if a child has snoring and sleep apnea, it can actually cause them to be more active during the day instead of an adult who just wants to sleep. On the thyroid issue, I think it's alittle far fetched but my Mom, Grandpa, and Uncle all have Graves Disease so we do have thyroid issues in the family but to have it skip over me and go to Dominic just seems strange to me. On the food allergies, I'd heard about that in the past but I don't think he has one.
Basically last nights appointment was about us as a family. She wanted to know how long we'd been married, jobs, etc. Then she wanted to know our concerns on Dominic. I told her after a year old he just got so much more active and then by 2 was when I really started having issues. I told her about some of the problems at school and home with his anger and over activeness. So after she heard all that she decided we should look into his physical health, and if that looks OK then it sounds like she may refer us to an actual child psychologist. Ugh. This is going to be one hell of a process. Thank God D's insurance gives us 3 free visits before insurance kicks in.
Friday, October 27, 2006
In other news, the Dr's office called me about him again yesterday. I knew that his Dr was making a trip to the school but I wasn't sure if he was going to be able to talk to his teacher or not. It sounds like it was kind of a luncheon to talk to a few teachers about some of their students that are his patients. Basically she called back to tell me that now he would prescribe a medication for him (Adderall) and we'd see if that made a difference. I told her we have an appointment with a therapist and we'll see how that goes before we do anything else for now. A few days ago though, all I cared was getting him on meds. Really I don't want him on meds, but I feel for everyone's safety and for his own wellbeing it'd be better but we'll see what therapy does first.
Thursday, October 26, 2006
Well we got intouch with a place intown to start Dominic on some mental evaluations. We visit with her on November 1st. After that he'll be going to her. In all he's been acting pretty good except for a few times a day we'll have some moments.
Tuesday he had a field trip to a Pumpkin Patch so I went along taking Damien and Kayla. Damien and Dominic didn't want to sit still for storytime at all so that was fun. They were both fighting me. I met Dominic's buddy Justin and his mom. Atleast I know who Justin is now! They went through the pumpkins, played in the hay bale maze, had a snack, and storytime. I think they all had a great time.
Dominic and Justin going through Pumpkins
Dominic as a pumpkin
Teachers and kids lost in the Hay Bale Maze
Monday, October 23, 2006
They are now trying to get me in touch with a Child Psychologist which is who his Early Intervention school wanted me to contact in the first place. Fuck me fuck me fuck me 1,000 times. This sucks and now I've got a headache.
Friday, October 20, 2006
I had Dominic's PT Conference yesterday. So far he's doing great except for the outbursts and fits at school. He hasn't been too physical this school year with the teachers. He is learning so that's awesome. He knows 1-10, all basic shapes and colors. He can say a million things now but just doesn't pronounce them well. He's been working on the ABC song too. Anyways it was nice and encouraging atleast to hear that he is getting something out of school, not just another place to act like a monkey and climb the walls.
Friday, October 13, 2006
Dominic did great getting his pictures taken the other day. We probably told him a good 100 times to put his hands down though. He'd keep his hands down for about 20 seconds then put them up by his chest or his face. Damien got in a few of the pictures and was really good at smiling it was just Dominic and his dang hands all over the place which was always the problem. Afterwards I had told him we'd look at trains. I was hoping he'd pick one out for $6.88 at Walmart but instead he found a train for $9.88 plus some boxcars for 7.88! I tried everything to get him to put them back but unless we were going to be there all day or I was going to pick him up kicking and screaming I wasn't getting out of the toy department without a fight so I just said screw it. Since he got these new toys on Wednesday, he's played with them every second of the day. TV as usual is pretty much nonexistant to him because he's zoned on the trains.
A new issue that's popped up the last few weeks is spitting. Whenever he disagrees with what we say, he's sticking out his tongue and spitting then running around like an idiot. It's the most annoying thing. I wish I knew where he gets half the stuff he does. TV? School? It's like he was just born with these abilities, kinda like how kittens know how to use a litterbox when they are babies. You'd think some days I just let him sit around eating candy all day with how he acts. LOL
Wednesday, October 11, 2006
Tuesday, October 10, 2006
Gymnastics tonight went pretty well. He was still acting up abit but I didn't see the teachers have to chase him once. He did keep moving around on the floor from where he was supposed to be and on the trampoline he was supposed to be sitting but instead he started bouncing on his knees and would make the girl who was supposed to be jumping fall down. Afterwards he became a very bad boy. He started screaming at me "No Momma!" on everything I asked him to do so I eventually let him crawl on the floor and run around while Alex finished her class. I felt bad for not controlling him better but I was so worn down from the day I just had no energy to do anything about it. This baby is really killing my energy level right now. He refused to leave either after Alex's class was over and I had to chase him around the spring board and mats.
He did though take his bath willingly and go straight to bed (fell asleep before 9) since he didn't take a nap once again.
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
Tuesday, October 03, 2006
Inattentive, easily distracted
Actively defies or refuses to compy with adults' requests
Acts as if driven by a motor
Cannot sit still
Argues with adults
temper outbursts, explosive, unpredictable behavior
Has difficulty laying or engaging in leisure activities quietly
Then she scored 7 #2's and that means they are pretty much true, often, happen quite a bit.
Restless in a squirmy sense
fidets with hands or feet or squirms in seat
short attention spn
only pays attention to things he is really interested in
Distractibility or attention span a problem
Runs around or climbs excessively in situations where it's inappropriate
Always up and on the go
Good thing is he doesn't forget things, disturb other children, or leave his seat, waits his turn, interupts others or fails to finish what he starts. I guess only scoring a 1 or just alittle true is good for those right?? Ugh. God this sucks. Now Dave and I have our tests to fill out and we're both dreading it, that's why it hasn't been done yet.
Sunday, October 01, 2006
We did have a few times of him jumping on Alex and pushing Damien away from his trains but nothing that we couldn't handle.
Saturday, September 30, 2006
Today there was a Chili Cookoff downtown. We usually go every year since they have stuff for the kids to do like the moonwalk and junk. The kids all handled walking around while we got Chili samples at the booths quite well. When we walked by the Downtown Thomas the Train store though, all hell broke lose. He was not budging and stood right next to the door. We tried everything to get him to come willingly but since it didn't work, Dave ended up carrying him over his shoulder while he kicked and screamed. He also threw a fit in the grass because we wouldn't let him go for a 2nd time in the Moonwalk. It was funny because the shirt he's wearing is the one that says "I don't act like this at home." He was pretty upset but after we let him play a game and he got a lollipop he was much better. He also got some free icecream from a merchant so that made him happy too.
Friday, September 29, 2006
That evening we had Alex's Cheerleading performance at the highschool. I was going to video tape so I had Dave watch the boys down on the ground (we had a stroller) while I went up in the bleachers with another mom. She knows Dom's craziness so I turned around to check on where they were and saw Dominic just running all over the place in circles around Dave and other people. I finally told him to come up the ramp to me and so he did. He then started climbing up the side wall of the ramp going up the bleachers. Lori and I had to keep telling him to get down before he fell over the edge and 6 feet down to the pavement. Finally Dave's parents arrived and his dad held him. He was ok after that.
Since Dave's parents from AZ have been here, they have been pretty negative with the whole testing and diagnosis of possible ADHD. Honestly I think D would agree with me when I say they can kiss our asses because they see the kids a total of maybe 3-4 weeks a year while everyone else at school, both sets of my parents, my sisters, our friends, etc see him on a regular day to day basis and they know he's given us (his parents) and his teachers one heck of a time. They have no clue what happens here. All I've heard is "well Dave was so much worse as a kid" Sure.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
Not much to report this day. Dominic's Grandma and Grandpa are in town for the next week. They took him out and bought him a new train and track and he was totally in to that for the day. If he wouldn't do what I wanted though, I'd threaten to take the train and he'd actually mind! LOL Pretty funny. He went to Brownie Girl Scouts with me tonight and wasn't too bad. He did keep getting the girls all running around and acting crazy but for the most part he'd stop running or messing with them when I said "no."
I bought this shirt last year on clearance for him to wear this Halloween season. It says "mummy knows best!"
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
- we have a hard time taking him anywhere because of how out of control he gets
- his teachers have tried all their "techniques" and they are no longer working
- he never naps and is up from 7-9PM and there's no down time
- he is fixated on Thomas the train 24/7. He plays with nothing else.
- he constantly beats up on his brother, jumps on his sister.
- taking away Thomas for bad behavior makes him go nuts and he'll throw things, kick walls, and beat his head in the wall.
- We constantly tell him no on things yet he does them over and over minutes later.
- He gets very upset over stupid things.
We talked for awhile about it he said he will give meds to the kids under 5 that are really harming themselves and others so that was good to hear. BUT I think he now knows that something is not right. Dominic was ALL OVER the little room we were in. Imagine a chimp in a zoo exhibit. He played with the blood pressure cuffs, the doors, he shut the lights off on us 3 times, he playfully kicked and clapped his hands for awhile, digged through my purse, he'd lay down then get up, he'd crawl under the chairs, he'd jump in place and then crawl on his knees and this was all in a 20 minute span. I was really hoping he'd show his true colors there and our Dr agrees he is "one active fella." So now we are taking these tests called Connor ADHD tests I believe is what they are called. After Dave and I and the two teachers fill them out, he will grade them and see what Dominic qualifies as. If it's just he's got some behavior issues then we may have to see someone else because he says he does nothing with Behavior Disorders. So that is where we are.
Monday, September 25, 2006
He wasn't much trouble all afternoon because he was alone after the babies went to bed and he just played with his trains. We went to a few peoples houses to see if anyone wanted anything from the fundraisers Alex is doing and at 1 house he was pretty out of control playing with the dog, jumping on furniture and acting like a dog. By 9 he was getting tired because he hadn't taken a nap so it was quite easy to get him to go to sleep after his bath.
Sunday, September 24, 2006
Same old issues today with the trains and fighting over them. He just refuses to share at all and now that Damien is interested in them too instead of just the trucks and cars, it's getting worse. This is why I think it would be too dangerous to put the boys in the same room because since he's so mean in the front room, who knows what he'd do to him in the middle of the night. We tried getting out the race track for Damien and then Dominic wanted to play with it too but finally went back to his wood trains and trainset. Damien immediately stopped playing with the trains when we got the race track out because he loves shaking the cars and watching them go!
We tried going to the store tonight and Dominic refused to sit in the seat or back of the basket. He wanted to ride on the front which he did for awhile but then jumped off and started running everywhere. People were dodging around him with their baskets as I apologized over and over to all of them. Most of them thought his antics were cute. Some gave me the "do something about your kid" look. I hate it when he's not sitting in the basket at Dillons mainly because he has to touch everything. In the meat department he touched probably about 15 different types of plastic wrapped meats. He wants to press on the plastic and dent it is what it is. Then in the produce he started grabbing Gala Apples and I told him again we don't touch. When I started putting some in the sack he screamed at me "no touch mommy!!!! Put back!!!" He threw a fit because I was buying apples. When he saw some toys over by the chips he freaked out and said "I go get toy." We both told him no toys and he freaked so Dave thought he'd take him to go get a movie and I told him I'd hurry and check out. I started putting stuff on the conveyor when I heard the biggest girlie scream ever and looked to the video department to see Dave hauling Dominic over his shoulder. Dominic wanted to rent a Thomas movie but we have every freakin one they have there so he got them a Halloween Chipmunk DVD and he was NOT happy. I bought him a Nerds Rope hoping that would shut him up and Dave could take him to the car but he settled down eating that and wanted to wait for me to get everything rung up.
On a positive note, Dominic went to the bathroom and peed twice today without much of a fuss. Actually I didn't even say "go potty" he just went there. Once was after I changed a poopy pull up and the other was just because I said, "you probably should go potty soon." We still went through about 3 pull ups though with accidents.
Saturday, September 23, 2006
Alex had cheerleading practice so when I went to pick her up I took Dominic with me to get him out of the house. We went inside and I sat with 3 other moms I know and chatted. Dominic sat on Kristi's lap because he likes her quite a bit. He was really good! When it was over Lori another mom I know came up and we started talking and then he started getting a bit antsy. He started running around in the gym laughing, trying to get the 3 other kids (2 of Lori's and Alex) to chase him. We ventured outside and he was laughing and just all over the place. I had to keep yelling at him because he kept running into the parking lot where people were leaving. When he started taking off to the football field we sorta decided it was time to go.
Later in the evening I needed to go to Walmart for a few things so we headed over. We got him to sit in the basket which is near impossible most of the time. We got over to the halloween stuff and Dave took him to go look for a costume since it was so busy. We didn't find one but after getting out of the basket, he didn't want back in so Dave had to fight him to get him to sit. By the time we got to the groccery aisles things started to get a bit hectic. Everything I stuck in the basket he'd scream and say to put it back. I found Halloween cookies by Pillsbury that I had a coupon for and he freaked out screaming "no cookies! no cookies!!!" Anything you'd think a kid would want and I was putting in the basket he'd go beserk and tell me to put it back screaming and kicking so since we had 2 baskets I'd have to sneek it into the other when he wasn't looking. I asked him to tell me what he wanted me to get and he'd just scream at me so we decided to get out of there. Before we left we stopped in produce looking at pumpkins. We thought that would make him happy but instead he freaked out again. He didn't want the pumpkins INSIDE the store, he wanted the ones OUTSIDE. We left without getting any. As soon as we got home he went back to playing with his trains. I didn't even bother with baths for the evening and just got the kids to bed. I put him to bed at 10 and he went down fairly quickly since he hadn't had a nap.
Friday, September 22, 2006
At dinner we had some issues with him not sitting still. He was laying on his back on the bench and kicking his feet in the air and going under the table not wanting to eat. He wouldn't sit still but finally after we had finished Dave sat him on his lap and fed his enchilada to him and he ate about 6-7 bites of it. This is actually quite common here at the table so we're used to it.
I decided though, to put this blog back in session. I stopped mainly because 2 was too hard to keep up with but now it's mainly going to be a journal of life with little D. Highs and Lows for the day. Then I'll be armed with information I can give the Dr or child psychologist we'll be contacting to see if we can figure out what's going on in his little brain causing all this. Our first Ped consultation for looking at ADHD will be September 27th.